/If you want to continue to have a healthy friendship, you need to know that it is a two way relationship, it is not all about you, it is about having harmony with that person. Sometimes you can’t get your way. You have to learn how to be a good listener.
I love people, and don’t mind making a few friends here and there, but I rather make business friends, then to have regular friends, because some friendships can take a toll on you. People come with all their demands, and usually I attract the friends who can burden you down with all of their demands, I don’t like that. I am a very busy person, and am very aware of my time, I am aware of other people’s time as well. I don’t like to have people doing too much for me, and don’t want anyone who wants me to do much, because my schedule is already loaded with things to do. If you want a healthy friendship, then you really need to be a good listener, and find out what are your friend’s likes, and dislikes. This is very essential to a healthy relationship, not only for friends, but any kind of relationship with someone you like.
I know what it takes to maintain a healthy friendship; this is why I try to take on less of them as possible, because I know that at this stage of my life, I do not have the time to invest in them in order to keep it healthy. If you know that you don’t have the time to spend on a healthy friendship, then it is best not to engage in them. It is okay to speak with people, or to socialize with someone, but to have a person you call a friend, is someone you spend some time with, so take these things into consideration when you are making friends.
If you know your friend doesn’t like something, why irritate them with things you know they don’t like. Another thing you should not do, is force your ways upon your friend, if there is something that you like, and you know that your friend doesn’t why try and force them to engage in things they dislike? I know a few people who do these things to their friends, and I don’t think that it is a good thing to do, nor do I think that friendship will last for long with one friend trying to force another friend in things that they are not interested in participating in.
I know of another friendship that is not so nice, like one friend is extremely sensitive, so if their friend says something that they dislike, they stop talking to that friend, I don’t think this is fair to do to their friend, and at the same time, they don’t want to lose that friendship, now you have to be fair to your friend, you cannot do your friend this way, and still want to continue on having a healthy friendship.